Family is the core of the societies. It is the family values that shape the entire society. The difference between the American society and the Omani society reflects the difference in the family system. The American society is based on the ideals of independence and individualism. And that is very prominent in the American family. The kids are raised will little or no punishment over their mistakes because punishment is illegal. Besides, kids relay on their parents till certain age where they should start depending upon themselves. And some families end up asking their daughters and sons to leave the house. They start working at eerily age to bay their own tuitions and life expenses. And old parents almost always end up in a nursery house.
This family picture is completely different from our family picture. We are raised to value collectivism and group work. There is a different way of how we view independence. The families are big of an average five kids in each family. There is no time limit to which they stop spending and supporting us. Especially girls, they can live with their parents forever if they want. And even boys, their parents continue supporting them even after they start work. They sometimes build their families in their parents’ house. And eventually, it is the kids who should care about their parents when they are old. It is the kids’ duty to pay them back some of their hard work in raising them. But in this term, it is the Islamic religion that played a big role in creating this value, of parents caring and respect. Parents are highly respected in our societies.
Marriage is a sacred relation that should be taken seriously by the couples. They should consider and understand the responsibility of such a decision. In our religion and culture there is no place for relations before marriage. In my country the divorce rate is very low. And divorce wouldn’t happen unless in a very complicated and serious cases. And it is still the responsibility of both parents to raise the kids if they happen to have any. And it is the father who should pay the kids expenses every month. On the other hand, Divorce is very high in the US. The families are less stable than in my country. There is a huge number of single parents. And divorce became a normal part of living in this society.
I like stable marriage. I believe stable marriage is good for kids.
ReplyDeleteImagine that everyone in the world concerned marriage as a sacred relation, our world would be really peaceful.
ReplyDeleteIf marriage is considered a "sacred relation", why is that men in arab countries marry 3 to 4 times ?
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ReplyDeleteyou still said marry not random relations we see in other countries. It is still marraige. And I see that sharing his wife with amother women by marrying her better than sharing her with prostitute. And it is even better than having the relationship and then running away leaving the woman with a child to raise. And anyway there are reasons for marrying another women like, if she is a widow to help her, to have kids if the first have some medical problem. And the condition for having more than one wife is to treat them equaly in every thing.And before marriage, the first women can condition that she doesn't want her her husband to marry another wife.And by the way just few people marry more than one women not many.
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